Rejection. I hate it. I can’t deal with it and I know it’s one of my biggest deterrents in life. So recently when I got rejected by something, I decided to partake in activities during my pity party which included making a list of all the times I was rejected starting from when I was 10-years old. It was so ridiculous. (Sometimes being a blogger sucks because I have to reveal things about myself that are borderline embarrassing). Nevertheless, although I wanted this activity to bring more grief to my already forsaken mood, it actually brought on a revelation that I’d never even considered before that moment.
Revelation: Each time I was rejected, something better, greater, more fit for me came out of it and the moral of the story is…I turned out okay.
When I was 10-years old, I was rejected by Prep for Prep, which is a program for underprivileged students to attend private school. I thought it would make me look like I was not smart, but in reality I turned out fine and I excelled in public school.
When I was applying to college, I was rejected by my dream school Spelman. I thought it was the end of the world, but I enjoyed my wacky time at Penn State and met some of my best friends.
When I graduated, I couldn’t find a job for the life of me. It was so bad, I was rejected by the clothing store Uniqlo. Eventually, I found an excellent job and it’s been an amazing ride.
Throughout life, I’ve been rejected. Whether it was from boys, schools, or professional/social groups. I know essentially the rejection felt like failure, but putting things into perspective, it needed to happen to make way for something better to come into my life.
If you’re feeling defeated by rejection, I can only hope that you will not let it limit you. Put things into perspective and consider that maybe something way better is on the way into your life.